The New Gay Agenda- Preference Shaming

The new gay agenda- preference shaming

Take a look at the popular gay blog Queerty. If you scroll down you’ll see their tagline “No agenda except for the gay one”. If you read their articles you’ll see what the gay agenda means to them. Right now it seems to be trying to make people feel bad for having sexual preferences.

Here is a video of a white guy bitching about racism in the gay community

According to Queerty

For a people bonded by feeling different, sometimes it seems like we’ve learned to be almost as mean as the people who made us feel being different was wrong in the first place.


In another article they state:

71% of gay men said they are actively turned off by a prospective partner who demonstrates signs of femininity. Meanwhile, 29% said they saw more effeminate characteristics in men as a positive trait.

So what’s the takeaway from all this?

Well, it looks as though a large majority of these gay men harbor misogynist attitudes, which they seem to apply toward themselves and others.


Boo-fucking-hoo activists

There is a plethora of research to show that preferences are human and innate throughout the animal kingdom. According to Psychology Today.  Straight men have a preference for:


Long hair

Small waists

Blonde Hair

Blue Eyes

According to another article in the same publication straight women have a preference for:

Social status

Resources (money)


Muscular physique

This shouldn’t be a shock to anyone that hasn’t been living under a rock their entire lives. What is shocking though is the liberal gay community seems to think preferences shouldn’t apply to gay men. When was the last time you saw an article on Cosmo Magazine trying to shame women for not being attracted to effeminate men? When was the last time you saw an article in Ebony magazine trying to shame Black women for having a preference for Black men? Hell I don’t even see lesbian publications trying to shame lesbians for have preferences. Full disclosure I don’t read lesbian publications.

Where does it stop?

I have a question to all those guys in the video that were crying because they didn’t get as much attention as they’d hoped on grindr. Have you ever rejected someone because you weren’t into them? Do you have preferences that you are attracted to or do you just accept anybody due to political correctness?  I have another question to all the PC lunatics. Are gay men sexist because they have a preference for men over women? Are tops ‘rolist’ because they have a preference for bottoms over tops?  Are bottoms ‘penisist’ because many of them prefer big dicks? Where does it stop?

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Guilting people doesn’t work

Preference shaming or guilting people into dating someone they don’t like won’t work. Who wants to date someone that doesn’t really want to be with them? It’s just like the racial activists that try to guilt white men into dating people they aren’t attracted to. If you talk to communities of color, however, they do have preferences and many of them are racial preferences.  There are sites like that do nothing but celebrate black beauty and put black men on a pedestal. There gay Latino pride sites as well, GayLatino&Proud. Under the leftist logic are those sites not racist also for promoting the beauty of one race over another? I bet if there was gay white and proud site there would be cries to shut it down and it would be given the scarlet letter of ‘racist’.

The hypocrisy

I saved the funniest part for last. Many of those who feel slighted have the same preferences are those who are slighting them. The Problematic Gender Politics Between Masc and Fem Gays-Vice. Most effeminate men don’t want effeminate men themselves! In addition most of the racial activists that are whining about white men themselves want to date white men exclusively.  In other words they’re crying, screaming, and shouting at other people for having the same preferences they do. Nice.

Now let’s take a look at Queerty itself shall we?

Did you notice something? Did you notice that almost every other article has a feature image of hot white men with their shirts off? Now if they’re so anti-preference why would they do that? Is it because feature images of hot men with their shirts off are more likely to get clicks which translates into more $$ for Queerty? So much for being a publication of principles Queerty.

The truth

Now for the real bombshell. Gay people are actually more likely to date outside of their race than straight people. According to the Williams Institute a liberal think tank that studies trends in homosexuality.

More than one in five same-sex couples (20.6%) are interracial or interethnic compared to 18.3% of different-sex unmarried couples and just 9.5% of different-sex unmarried couples (see Figure 5). More than half of same-sex couples in Hawaii (53%) are interracial or interethnic (see Figure 6). About a third fit that category in California (33%), New Mexico (31%), and Nevada (30%). Other states where same-sex couples are likely to be interracial or interethnic include Alaska (28%), District of Columbia (28%), Oklahoma (26%), Arizona (26%), Texas (25%), and Colorado (24%). Less than 10% of same-sex couples are interracial or interethnic in Maine, Mississippi, Vermont, West Virginia, and New Hampshire, and Alabama.-The Williams Institute

This just goes to show it’ll never be enough for the activists. They’ll always need something to bitch about in order to make themselves feel important.

The real solution

We are who we are and we like who we like. If someone isn’t into you for whatever reason suck it up and move on. Sorry Sean not everyone is going to be attracted to you. The free market also has a solution. There are now apps specifically for specific niches in the gay community.  Growlr for instance is specifically for large and/or mature men and their admirers. The app does half the work for you since by being on that app you’re saying you’re into large and/or mature men. Black men tend to use Jack’d. If there is a market need I’m sure there will be an app for gay asian & latino men and their admirers as well. There are facebook groups specifically for gay men over 30 as well!

In short stop whining! If your life is a pile of shit then plant some seeds and see if you can make something grow out of it. Don’t try to shame others into rolling in it with you.


Gay Men Dont be a Victim of Dating Scammers!

As many gay men approach the big 4-0 and are still single they look to the internet for love. The internet is a great place to find love but you must be cautious. Dating scammers are real but easy to detect if you follow this advice and use common sense.

I personally sought love abroad because I was looking for a different kind of partner. Many of the potential partners I was meeting in my home country were seeking open relationships or just had a more liberated view than I of what a marriage/relationship should look like. I wanted something different. I’ve been blessed to meet many wonderful young men in the Philippines that never asked me for a dime. Many gay men seek love abroad for their own reasons whether it be because they want someone younger or they just have an adventurous spirit. Any of those reasons are very good ones to broaden your horizons.

If you plan to seek love abroad you must protect yourself from dating scammers! You must move with caution and make sure to keep the emotions in check. There are many sites where you can meet guys abroad. Meet Pinoys and Filipino Cupid are among the better ones even has a user ratings system to keep people honest.  But no website can stop all of the scammers from slipping through. There are, however, signs you can look for to protect yourself from being scammed:


  • He wants to get you off the dating site and onto another platform such as Facebook or Skype very quickly
  • Claims feelings too soon-Its not human to fall in love after one chat session. Sorry
  • He tells you a sad story and things never seem to be going his way financially
  • Tells lies but when caught in a lie seems to have a clever excuse
  • He claims to have a university education from an English speaking country but his writing is full of grammatical errors
  • He talks about wanting to move to your country right away
  • Shows you nude/sexually provocative photos of himself but doesn’t request to see any of you
  • Won’t have sex with you and tries to make you feel guilty for wanting sex- A young man making excuses to not have sex is never a good sign.
  • It just doesn’t feel right-This is the most important. If your intuition is telling you something is off about this relationship/person move on. There are way more foreign guys looking for western men than vice versa

How to Make an Older/Younger Relationship Work


There’s nothing wrong with wanting a younger men! 

Sometimes people judge men because they desire to date younger man. There are even websites like Meet Filipinos which are for mature men seeking relationships with younger Filipinos. The reality is many of those gay men judging secretly want a young man themselves. Man no matter what sexual orientation was biologically programmed to seek youth and signs of vitality among other things Read more. If someone 20 years younger than you is what makes you tick then as long as he’s legal go for it!  We all have our dating preferences whether it be ethnicity, weight, height, or anything else. Its better to be honest than to try to force yourself to be in a relationship with someone you’re not happy with.

There’s nothing wrong with wanting economic security! 

Resources have been a factor when choosing a partner since the beginning of time. Men tend to look for signs of vitality and good health i.e. youth. Women tend to look for signs of security and resources i.e. money. Men want a woman that can give him good healthy progeny while women want a man that will stick around and provide security for her offspring. The gay world isn’t much different. A lot of older men look to younger men for sexual attractiveness and younger men are looking to older men for economic security.  You can also read our article on how to prevent being scammed. Don’t Be a Victim!


1.Understand that you are both equals 

Sometimes gay men tend to look at intergenerational relationships as unequal.   You think because you pay the bills that he has to do whatever you say? Think again. He’s a human being that deserves to be treated with respect. If you don’t respect him he’ll leave you for someone that will. You think because you are young and thin and constantly have older men flirting with you that you’re doing him a favor?  Maybe you think “man he doesn’t know how lucky he is having me!” If that’s the case then your partner is the most unlucky person in the world to have a guy like you.  Relationships are not favors no more than they are just about sex. Never be with someone that thinks he’s doing you a favor by being with you. That sounds basic but many gay men have been socialized to believe that that’s all they’re worth. You are both equals.

2.Talk about it!

Accept that in an intergenerational relationship the expenses won’t be split 50/50 . Not because he doesn’t want to but because he can’t. Realize that just because you might be paying more often than not it doesn’t mean he’s using you. If you’re unsure just take a step back and look. Is he opening his wallet when he’s with his friends while claiming to be broke with you?  When you’re the one always paying resentment can be a natural reaction. If you feel the resentment beginning to fester talk to him about it. Let him know you understand he may not have much money but you’d appreciate something small like a card, a rose, or even some candy every once in awhile. It’s always the little things that count.  Which brings me to my next point if you’re the one with lower finances there are some things you can do to make your partner not feel used. 1. Don’t suggest activities and then expect him to pay. 2. Do little things. He knew coming in that you didn’t have much money. Its not your money he wants he just wants to feel appreciated and to know you don’t feel entitled to his money because of your youth.

3.Embrace your differences

A personal story: in some ways my partner and I couldn’t be more different. He’s into Ms. Universe and other ‘gay’ things while I like Adult Swim and Star Trek. My partner will never enjoy and episode of Futurama nor will I ever enjoy watching a Ms. Universe pageant. We embrace those differences as should you.  Understand that maybe as an mature man you’ve been at this game of life longer (hence the term mature). That doesn’t, however, entitle you to look down on him and treat him like a child. He wants a partner not a father. Conversely don’t interpret advice as him trying to be your dad rather you should interpret it as him trying to prevent you from making the same mistakes he did. Embrace that he may make silly decisions. Embrace that sometimes he may be overbearing with advice.

4.Accept the bitter with the sweet

Yes you’re going to get strange looks sometimes. Yes there will be some friends telling you you can do better or that since you’re the one always paying the tab he should be a de facto servant. These are the things that come up in an intergenational relationship. On the other hand you’ll get a mature man who is secure and has your back when something happens. You’ll get a man that understands a relationship is more than sex. Most importantly you’ll get a man that is actually serious about wanting a relationship in the first place!

Relationships take effort. Inter generational relationships take more even effort. If you’re in it for more than just a young piece of ass or a sugar daddy realize that you both will need to put a lot of effort to make it work. Once you do that your relationship will be a beautiful thing.